Kindness...How simple is it?
Updated: Jun 21, 2019
Kindness sounds like a simple concept. We learn about it when we are in pre-school. So why is it so hard to implement when we feel hurt or triggered? To put it simply, when someone or something triggers our flight/fight/freeze response, it kicks our brain into survival mode. In survival mode, adrenaline pumps, frontal lobe shuts down, and our desire to "win" comes into play. Unfortunately, in this modern era, that typically means we break others down with our words.
But what happens when we can pause, see the space and how our choice impacts another person? We then can be an active participant in how we not only make ourselves feel, but also how our words affect others.
It is important to implement these social skills at an early age while the brain is still a sponge. It will create a generation of being proactive vs reactive.
At the end of the day, if someone lashes out at us, it is not about us; it's about them projecting out how they really feel internally, and 99% of the time, it's because they are hurting. If you feed into those behaviors and engage, will that make it right, or better? No. Love is the force that heals.
"We never know what people are going through, so be kind."